2013년 7월 8일 월요일

Listing friends as spouses and relatives on Facebook ??



                 I started using Facebook very recently just after starting my freshman year at KMLA. I made my profiles by stating my personal information including my hometown, school, and birthday. While creating my profile, I saw many blank spaces where I could put in a lot more specific information. I could list my family members, marriage or dating status and more particularly, my political and religious opinions. I left the marriage or dating status empty and rather put my two sisters as family members. I thought that this would be the same for every KMLA student, just typing their family members’ name and leaving others empty. However as I used Facebook more for contacting my friends, I found some of the people in my friend list added their friends’ name in spouses or relatives space. It was kind of bizarre that they add their friends’ name even though they were not real relatives or spouses.

I started to think about Facebook itself before I further contemplate about that particular function. Facebook has provided a global connectivity which is very unique in our times. As long as I can add anyone in my friends list, I can just send messages no matter where they live. Especially, the function of Newsfeed enables me to share life with anyone. Even when I am not with my friends, I feel as if I am still talking to them because I can write comments like a conversation on many photos, videos, and statuses they post. At the same time, I can see how they are doing. I concluded that Facebook has become its own virtual world to billions of people who use it.
                 However this virtual world focuses more on people I am surrounded by in the society rather than family at home. Facebook is not mainly designed to share stories with family. I believe it is designed to communicate with friends continuously and people use Facebook to cultivate social relationships outside of my family. Therefore, people are listing their best friends as spouses or relatives because they are considered more important in the social circles of Facebook, in other words, the role of family is weakened in Facebook. My parents don’t use facebook because it is not popular among their generation, and noticeably I contact more with my social circle of friends than my two sisters.                    
From another view, for KMLA students who do that, I think it attributes to the special environment we have in KMLA. It has only been four or five months since we entered KMLA, but here, about 400 students eat, sleep, and study together in a same place. We face the same people every day. Indeed, for this year, students have spent more time living with other students than with their family. This is the reason we often say KMLA family. I have not found friends that I feel as close as my family but for others who did, I think by marking them as family, they would feel a closer relationship because it also means that they consider and care about them like family. It is also partly for entertainment purposes. Furthermore, whereas I felt somewhat lonely when I left those spaces empty, they instead put their friends so that they feel content as if they have spouses.
I will continue to live with my KMLA family until I graduate, and the friendship that I have with them will become deeper. I would accumulate many valuable experiences and memories with them and maybe after two years, I may consider them as close as I do with my family. 


                 

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